Husband Hunts Too Much? Advice for the Hunting Widow
You've come to the right place! First, let me reassure you: you aren't alone. Many women face the same dilemma, year after year. A man obsessed with deer hunting can have a negative effect on the family.
But then, again, it isn't always a bad thing. It could be much worse.
He could be an alcoholic, drug addict or abuser.
He could chase women, cheat on his taxes or blow his money.
But he doesn’t do those things. He just hunts in all his spare time during deer season, hog season, duck season, and whatever-other-critters-are-left season.
Now that’s not so bad, is it?
The Positive and Negative Side of Hunting
When you weigh the positive aspect of an obsessive hunter with the negative points of the preoccupation, the positive points far outweigh the negative. How can I say that?
Mainly, hunting is a healthy sport. He gets plenty of exercise hauling a deer stand around on his back for endless miles in the wilderness [sarcasm]. He gets to wade water, climb trees and drag dead carcasses for miles through the woods. Best of all, he can stay awake for long hours with minimal sleep without falling out of the tree stand.
That’s all pretty physical, so it could be called positive, healthy behavior. But how do you deal with a man who’s obsessed with deer hunting?
Follow These Simple Steps
One: Don’t take it personally that he finds deer more appealing than you for four months out of the year. This, too, shall pass.
Two: Indulge yourself in your own hobby and don’t worry about it! You have the right to be obsessed about something, too!
Three: Don’t gripe because he’s away most of the time. Enjoy it! Make the most of the time to yourself! Grab a friend, take a trip, spend money, watch ‘Thelma & Louise’! Enjoy the solitude.
Four: Act interested in everything he says about deer. Ask stupid questions like, “Did the deer run when it saw you?” or, you can ask, “How many Bambi deer did you kill today?
Five: Don’t worry about supper being ready at a certain time. You know he won’t come home at the same time every day. Be selfish. Fix what you want. He can eat sardines and crackers when he comes home.
Six: Last, but not least, tell him the bloody buck is fantastic and you’re proud of him. (Gag, gag, vomit, vomit). Then, you won’t need to stay for the de-gutting process.
Ar you fired up yet? Ready to hit the shopping outlets at full speed? Why not!!!! Every woman has a choice. Make the most of it!
It’s not easy dealing with a hunting-obsessed man. You learn to weigh the pros and cons of both sides of the obsession. Once you learn the balance, you'll come out ahead. Acquire the coping skills needed, follow these suggestions, and you’ll soon learn how to deal with an obsessed hunter.
In Memory of My Hunting Husband. You're Free Now.
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.